I created this blog 4 years ago as an outlet to articulate the millions of thoughts that run through my mind daily... I'm sure many people can relate when I say "living in your head is exhausting". So in effort to streamline my thoughts, I'm back to share them with you!
During my 4 year hiatus of writers block, I've had quite a few life changing events happen to me. First I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years, left a company I had been at for 10 years and quit 2 high paying jobs because I was sick of corporate politics. All of this has led me to realizing who I am as a woman and also starting my own marketing firm with 2 clients under my belt so far!
In my mind life couldn't get any better, I'm beautiful, healthy, happy, stress free and prosperous. So while I think life is great, others ask "why are you single"? How is it that being single overshadowed all of the amazing adjectives I just used to describe how I feel about my life?
I've never been a serial dater, but I have always been in either a relationship or a long term situationship. Thing is being in those "relationships" I was consumed with very little time to think about myself and what was best for me. I was devoted, attentive, damn near sacrificial when it came to their needs vs. mine. Those "relationships" drained the drive out of me and offered me nothing but emotional distress in return.
When I finally found the courage to just be single, It took me years to find myself. I traveled Internationally, I dated, I excelled in my career, I became more health conscious, I was truly on a journey of self discovery of going from two to just one!
One can be lonely, but can also be liberating. I learned by being alone that no partner "completes" you. You need to be one whole happy person on your own before you can share your life with someone.
By no means am I saying that there are no benefits to being in a relationship, I'm merely highlighting the positive aspects of being single so that when you decide to enter into a new relationship you won't question anything given you know who you are and you know exactly what you want.
So my answer to "is it healthy to be single", is yes! From a self improvement, self discovery and self awareness standpoint, I recommend being a whole one person before being two of anything!
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