To DATE Or IntimiDATE, That's The Question!

I've always been pretty secretive when it came to my dating life. But as I get older and experience different kinds of men, I've realized men have just as many insecurities if not more than us women. Because of this, it gets harder to keep your dating life secret because the foolishness that we encounter as women from these insecure men is just to juicy not to share with others...

Why are men using the word "intimidation" as an excuse not to approach a woman, yet if we were to use the word "easy" some (I can't say all) men would find no issue in doing so. When I was young, broke and naive, my phone was constantly ringing with different guys that I had no real interest in. Now that I'm older, financially secure and in the prime of my career, when my phone rings it more than likely work related!

It's astonishing how many beautiful & successful women are single because men find them to be "intimidating". The underlying question is... Are these women really intimidating? Or are these men just in denial about their own insecurities and their deep rooted issues of not feeling good enough. Therefore they are willing to pass up a potential "Good Woman"?

In today's modern world, we've become obsessed with the ideal of perfection... Some men may not realize, but because of their deep rooted issues of not feeling good enough, they've projected their sentiments onto women who in return have become self obsessed with looking or behaving a certain kind of way just to appease the modern males ego & perception of perfection.

Perfection just doesn't exist no matter how much botox, fillers, hair extensions, nail tips or collagen butt shots you get. When did aesthetics become more of a "need" and finding someone who treats you right became a "want" in relationships?

Obviously my opinion is a bit clouded as I live in Los Angeles which is the breeding ground for artificial beauty & highly career driven individuals. With that said statistics show for 2022 that 37% of LA's population are single.

Back to the topic at hand... Insecurities exist in us all.. Both women & men alike. I don't want to make this just about men, but I am speaking from a woman's pov. We all find different things when it comes to the opposite sex that we identify as being intimidating to us as individuals that we really just need to let go...

Intimidation has nothing to do with the other person, but EVERYTHING to do with you as an individual and the work you need to do on yourself because no one should ever be intimidated by anyone.